Comparing ourselves to others has become a way of life.  We all do it.  Her job is better…she’s skinnier than me…I wish I had her house…she has more money than I do…I would do anything to have her legs, I hate mine…why don’t I have the same kind of free time as she does…and so on and so on.  It’s a very dangerous and slippery slope.  As soon as we compare ourselves to others we are diminishing the wonderful things we have going for us.  Surely your life can’t be that bad.  

I myself have been guilty of this since having my baby.  I find myself happy, with a beautiful and healthy baby girl, a wonderful husband, a home and job I love, unyet I compare.  My biggest comparison would be body image related.  When you’re pregnant, you get told all the time how beautiful you are and how amazing you look.  After the baby, the compliments come to a screeching halt.  Now you’re just a fat mom trying to loose your baby weight.  You now get sympathy  looks and pep talks.  ”Hang in there.”  ”You’ll loose the weight.”   Although the good intentions are there it seems like every comment is a validation that I’m fat and currently look brutal, but cuteness is just around the corner “when I get more of a routine”.

So where does the comparison come in?  My world is very online.  I’m a blogger, I’m on social media all the time, and while I love it, there are many slaps in the face that hit me every time I log on.  I am in awe of the new moms who have been able to post cute outfit pics of themselves just weeks after having their baby.  Rewind to just weeks after having had my baby….I was an all day milking machine wearing some sort of muumuu type thing {No, not MiuMiu}.  A shower in a day was a major victory.  Leaving the house, dressed, was an award worthy moment.  So who are these girls?  Why do they look so good?  How are they so skinny already?  Why can’t I get my sh*t together to be a {perceived} Wonder Woman?  And here come the comparisons.

While I admire these women for putting themselves out there and rocking it, I’m here to acknowledge the mommies like me or any ladies who feel like they can’t “keep up”.  Keeping up with the Jones’ {or the Kardashians} is a counter productive use of your time.  You are who you are.  Look to other women who inspire you and help motivate you to make improvements to your life.  Ignore those who bring you down {even if it’s unintentional}.  Embrace your truth.

My truth:
* I gained more than 30 pounds during my pregnancy
* I am not fitting my pre-baby clothing
* I currently hate any shoe with a heel
* Taking off PJ’s and putting on sweat pants counts as getting dressed
* my house does not look perfect….ever!
* as much as I love when my baby sleeps, my favourite part of my day is when she wakes up
* I put on a bit of makeup everyday because it makes me feel pretty
* I LOVE BEING MADELYN’S MOM

I am working on eliminating dangerous comparing from my life.  I have so many wonderful people and things to be grateful for and should focus on that.  After all, if I just hang in there, the weight will come off when I get a bit more of a routine;)  How about you?  Do you compare?

Wardrobe Building

Buy pieces you can mix and match.  You don’t want pieces that can only be worn one way.

If you’ve ever been in the process of loosing weight, you will know how frustrating it can be to go to your well stocked closet to get dressed and nothing really fits.  If you’ve ever had a baby, you will understand how confusing it can be to try and dress a new body shape all together {even my shoe size is different}.

Since I am on the journey of loosing baby weight, I am not exactly wanting to spend a load of cash on a whole new wardrobe.  However, I am a firm believer in feeling good about yourself and let’s face it, ill fitting clothing isn’t making anyone feel cute.  With this in mind, I have slowly been piecing together a little in between wardrobe for Spring.  To give me lots of looks with only a few pieces, I’ve made sure to keep things basic.  My wardrobe breakdown:

- 2 pairs of printed pants {1 jersey, 1 tailored}
- 1 pair of dark wash jeans
- 1 pair of black pants
- 3 t-shirts {1 white, 1 grey, 1 black}
- 1 printed blouse {I went with a black & white leopard print}
- 1 sleeveless blouse in a solid colour {black was my pick}
- 2 blazers {1 black, 1 striped}
- 1 cardigan
- 2 pairs of flats {1 leopard print loafer & 1 nude ballet flat…ok + a pair of black Toms for the weekend}

This wardrobe, along with previously owned items like bags, jewelry, and scarves, allows me to mix and match many different looks.  I have not been buying any investment pieces either.  Cheap and cheerful is the way to go when you’re only going to be wearing the items for a short time.

Good luck to all my fellow new mommies out there.  Now I’m off to make a smoothie and get an at home workout in!

 

With being a new mom, I have been forced to cut back my “get ready time” to just minutes now.   When it comes to getting dressed I have found the most time saving formula is to have a few go-to “uniforms”.  Rather than trying to reinvent the wheel everyday with a fabulous new look, I simply repeat a version of an outfit I most likely wore earlier in the week.  This week, I stuck to black and white.

black & white

This uniform consists of leggings (worn as tights), a fitted jersey mini skirt, an over-sized sweater, infinity scarf, flats or ankle boots (I’m obsessed with these cute little striped flats from The Gap..WANT!), a cross-body bag (so I can be hands free), a pair of pretty stud earrings, and my fancy little Alice & Olivia Starbucks mug (Momma needs some caffeine).   It’s an easy palette to mix and match. Adding  little gold or silver touches helps add a bit of shine to your look.

You don’t have to be a Mom to create a uniform for yourself.  You gals on a budget…this is a great cost effective way to maximize your wardrobe.

 

2013 was an amazing year for me both professionally and personally.  The year kicked off with me winning a one year lease on a super cute Mini along with a trip to Whistler. I also enjoyed some time on the beaches in Hawaii; spent the year doing styling for Framework magazine, including one feature I modeled in with my Style Common crew; I became a member of the Fashion Magazine Style Panel;  started a new business co-lab with the lovely Alicia Quan;  I had a styling feature in the The Province Newspaper; collaborated & organized numerous events; and even had lunch with a Victoria’s Secret Supermodel.  Needless to say, there was never a dull moment.

The biggest highlight of my year was spending the year pregnant and the birth of my beautiful Baby Girl, Madelyn.  Motherhood is a huge change and enormous blessing.  I am excited to start 2014 on such a positive note.  Here’s to another great year!

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December

 

Dec 192013

 

Our little Madelyn

This past month has been a bit of a blur.  I was launched from the life of a preggy gal to a mommy.  I’m taking some time to bond and settle in to my new role.  You will see me slowly coming back to the wonderful world of blogging with some new posts.  Yes, chances are I may mention this wee one from time to time:)   We are so in love with our little girl and settling in well as a family. I mean, how could resist falling in love with this adorable face?

I want to wish you all a very Merry Christmas.  I hope you all will experience tons of joy, love, and laughter.

Photograph: FM Photographics

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